Do you know bitter and cranky people? People who see everything as a problem and everyone else as responsible for the problem? I know people like this. They’re hard to work with and hard to be friends with; as students, they are hard to teach and support, and as a result they have a hard time learning. (But alas, I keep trying because that’s what I do.)
How do we develop the ability to reflect? We practice by engaging in “the process of internally examining and exploring an issue of concern, triggered by an experience, which creates and clarifies meaning in terms of self, which results in a changed conceptual perspective” (Boyd & Fales, 1983, p. 100).
Easier said than done (and it could in fact be easier said!). But I think this has much to do with learning from your experiences instead of letting them get you down.
This is how to be less bitter.