Becoming Adult

Today on Freshly Pressed I happened across this lovely little blog post from Burk Krohe: Signs I’m Starting To Become An Adult. Middle-class kid, college graduate, living at home, trying to find a job. He sees neckties and weddings and the inability to stay up all night drinking with his friends as his signs. Great post Burk – and congrats on making it on Freshly Pressed!

His post reminded me of a movie I love:

Mr. McGuire: I want to say one word to you. Just one word.
Benjamin: Yes, sir.
Mr. McGuire: Are you listening?
Benjamin: Yes, I am.
Mr. McGuire: Plastics.

Yesterday on Facebook my friend and colleague Jenny posted this brilliant observation as her status line:

It takes a village to raise a grown-up.

Isn’t that the truth?!?! I mean, seriously!!!

On July 5th this year, I will be 40.



Burk is noticing signs of becoming an adult in his mid-20’s. I want to let him know that if he’s paying attention (and he’d do well to do so), those signs will never go away, they will just change. Becoming an adult is a process — a lifelong process — with the only end in sight being THE end.

Right now the Top 3 signs in my life that I am becoming an adult are as follows:

  • Wrinkles. (Can I just call them laugh lines, please?) I now own wrinkle cream, and I use it furiously! (And I am adult enough to know that it probably won’t work, but I am also an optimist.)
  • A shift to taking care of my elders instead of them taking care of me, along with a terrified feeling that I am not qualified to do so.
  • Getting ready for the big neighborhood garage sale so I can get rid of stuff I’ve acquired, instead of acquiring stuff I need.

I could have said gray hair, but I’ve had that since my late 20’s, so that was one of my signs about a decade ago.

At this point in your life, what are the Top 3 signs that you’re becoming an adult? Do you embrace them, or do they make you cringe?


3 thoughts on “Becoming Adult

  1. I read that post too, which is how I found you, and I love this post. The Graduate is such a classic.

    I am only 20 now, but I was a really bad kid in high school. The straight up defiance and non stop lying was like something that I see in movies… I can tell I’m growing up because lying actually makes me feel bad. I used to shoplift all the time, and now I would probably turn myself in. I don’t believe in Anarchy and I don’t sneak out at night to get stoned. I’m embracing the maturity, but I’ll be damned if I ever admit to my parents “You were right, it was a phase.” (Perhaps once I’m a little more grown.)

  2. I still haven’t told my parents they were right about anything. That might be a sign when I am 50. 🙂
    Thanks for the comment!

  3. At this point, I am realizing that I am becoming an adult because I am paying back student loans, starting to seriously consider buying a house, and getting that itch to have children. Life is no longer just about me and doing what I want to do when I want to do it.

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